Happy Mothers' Day Eve! It can be easy to look at Mothers' Day as one of those "Hallmark Holidays"...damn, forgot to get a card! Anyway, I believe it is much more than that! Mothers are truly amazing people; soothers, sages, and storytellers! Have a nightmare, a headache, or an awful breakup? "Mom, MOMMY!!!" They have that unexplainable way of making you feel better, safer, and worthy by simply softening there voice and pushing your hair off your forehead! Think about it, we have all experienced laying in out beds as young kids breathing normally again because mom was there. Mom's often teach us how to moderate our emotions. The angrier we get, the sadder we are or the more we have fallen in love, mom teaches us to count to ten, smile even though we don't want to because somehow she knew we would need a chocolate chip cookie before the day ended. Mom also made sure that "that" girl was really worthy of her "favorite" son!
My mom has helped me fix a whole in the wall that I put in it in an angry rage during HS! My mom has treated me with the respect of complete honesty even when I may have preferred a lie. My mom, just 3 weeks ago, took my hands in hers, made me look in her eyes and promise to get a colonoscopy! See, my mom is a cancer survivor, defender of her 3 "cubs" and her 8 grandcubs!!! My mom demonstrated her trust in me by not getting over-involved, letting me learn through natural consequences and expecting me to be able to rise to these expectations even when I didn't deserve that respect or trust! I love my mother more today than I did yesterday and will love her even more tomorrow. Tell your mother you love her tomorrow because it's mothers day but prove it everyday by honoring the lessons she taught you throughout your life. Ruth Clement, you are the best and I will love you forever!
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Ruth sounds like a very strong and wise woman. I agree with her "natural consequences" philosophy. I believe children positively respond to being trusted with something that they don't expect you to trust them with. I think the goal is to not just be reactive to situations. Easier said than done sometimes though. I think that we all wish that we had a parenting handbook sometimes, but it helps when you've had a positive parenting role model like you have. Love her up while you can. And she's right - go and get a colonoscopy!
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